Surrogacy has gained an increasing popularity over the
last few years. For couples who cannot have a child for certain reasons, they
opt to have their own through this way. When they decide to have surrogacy, one
the first things that the couple would have to decide on is choosing the
surrogate mother. This process should not be taken for granted, as it is
perhaps the most important part when it comes to surrogacy. The reason being is
that they are the ones who will carry and conceive the child. So, what are the
things that you should pay attention to when it comes to choosing a surrogate
mother? Here are the following:
1- Surrogate Agency
If you chose a surrogate agency for a surrogate mother instead of
independent ones, make sure to talk with the agency first regarding who would
be the best surrogates to choose from. The agency will match the surrogate to
the parent based on a number of conditions that you will provide. Remember, the
decision is yours. Also, your residence must be near the agency’s location, or
to the surrogate’s residence for that matter. This makes communication easier
between you and them. Take note that there is fair difference in surrogate
mother cost between surrogates under an agency and those who work
independently.
2- Health
The surrogate
mother must be physically fit and mentally and emotionally stable.
Experts also say that the perfect age for surrogates is 21 years old and above.
Other than that, it is better if the woman has already previously given birth
to at least one healthy baby. This shows that she already knows the medical
processes, specifications, and complications that come with pregnancy. But
either way, the surrogate must take a medical and psychological evaluation
before anything else to prove that she is fit for conceiving and labor.
3- Willingness
Any apprehension coming from the surrogate mother is not a good sign. She must completely be
willing to carry and birth your child and all the responsibilities therewith.
There are cases where they refuse to turn over the child the last minute and
decide to raise the kid themselves. This is where the contractual agreement
comes to use. Both parties will sign a contract agreeing that the child must go
to the intended parents. It is also recommended for you to ask your relatives
and friends first because they are more willing to become the surrogates, but
this has its own challenges because there are family ties not recommended for
surrogacy relationships.
4- Legal Matters
Agencies already have lawyers prepared for you, and
they generally manage all the legal matters needed for the process. But if you
have an independent surrogate mother,
make sure you hire an attorney because it is highly important that all the
dealings are made legal. A lawyer who specializes in reproductive and surrogate
laws is what you should look for, especially. Also, there are states that have
not yet legalized surrogacy, so make sure that it is legal in your place, or
have it any state that made them legal. Otherwise, legal actions can be filed
against you.
Do you need more info? Visit this surrogacy community
online for surrogate mothers,
intended parents and egg donors:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n22iBz7AysM
Also more info:
1- wikipedia here
2- find surrogate mother here
3- Surrogacy here here
